Friday, February 17, 2006

Smiling...

This is a very little post (yeah that's what I always say). I want to post more about Oprah's "Debt Diet" -- but I need to re-watch the show and digest to post. My Baby Bond Grrl watched the show (I mentioned it to her on her site) and she has SIGNED her CONTRACT to pay her debt down. It's strict but so exciting.

But -- to what I was going to write about. Today, I practiced something I have been thinking about.

I mentioned before about smiling at people to raise your own spirits -- but also to raise the WORLD's spirits. Today, walking to the seminars I am taking, I practiced this. I would smile at someone, and ALMOST always, they would smile back. Now, this is the ticket...once they smile, you look down and away (what I call the "shy look"). This is your "mystery" look. (Remember, "mystery" is not being a tough "mysterious" serious Garbo-type....mystery is many things.) Now, here is the secret. KEEP SMILING as you keep walking.

They can't take their eyes off you (you can see this out of your peripheral vision). You know why? Because your continuing to smile as you keep watching is telling them that THEIR SMILE just MADE YOUR DAY. You are signaling to them that them smiling at you has MADE YOUR SMILE LAST.

So let's think about it again. You're walking SLOW-LY, because you're not late (ok, I have to work on that part). Not too slow, not too fast, Bond Grrl walking.

Someone looks at you. Practice with folks that aren't "threatening" (which generally means someone of the opposite sex, but who you don't feel is trying to jump you (laugh)). They catch your eye (just happens) and you smile at them -- remember, SMILE IN YOUR EYES, don't just smile with your mouth. (Think Kittens and Puppies if that helps and you're not "in the smiling mood.") They will NEARLY ALWAYS smile back.

Now, if you hold their eye, they're going to talk to you or approach you -- which is not what this is about. So that's where you look "down and away," think "smiling and mysterious" (or "I have a secret and it makes me smile"). Keep walking, keep smiling until they CAN'T SEE YOU any more.

If you look at them, you will see it. You have "made their day" because they think they have "made your day." And you know what? It will make them smile more. And that will lighten up a little bit more of the world -- bit by bit by bit.

You're going to love it :-)

2 comments:

Mica said...

I try to smile at people who I cross all the time. It does raise your spirits. I practiced it in the gym today. I probably shouldn't have because now all the boyz think I want them! lol

Solitaire said...

that's tough -- in a gym they can come and "git" you and pester. Better in a mall where you can "Bond grrl walk" away LAUGH.