Are you free, or in bondage?

Everything that you get/do/feel is directly related to your PERCEPTION of whether you are free, or in bondage.

Everything.

If you feel that you are "in bondage" on a certain issue (that you're not free, due to "circumstances" or "responsibilities" or...name that tune), then you're never going to get to ecstatic feelings about it.

Similarly, if you feel that you are "free" with respect to a certain issue, then you can get there -- even if it's a long long way off.

This is all about your PERCEPTION of your CONTROL.

There are certain events that you can't "control" per se. Hurricanes, for example. When this happens, your job is NOT TO DWELL ON IT -- it's to adapt to it, and move on. Don't try to change or fix it. (This is also the situation when you're dealing with ANOTHER PERSON -- hello, we can't treat our Jameses like homes, where we move in to demolish and rebuild!) Don't get toxic about it. And STOP complaining about it. I heard a gal say the other day "Complaining about another person and sending bad vibes at them is like taking poison yourself, hoping it will get them sick." Stop making YOURSELF toxic and sick this way.

There are certain events that you THINK you can't control -- but you can. You're just lazy, or haven't learned how. Time management. Goal setting. Debt reduction. You can become good, because what it takes is PRACTICE. Here, you need to become an "inventor." Inventors are people who take events that everyone things "just are" -- and they bring control to them.

You need to maximize the events that you can control, learn how to control the events that you think you can't but you can, and then have a reality check with respect to events you can't control, and stop putting energy into them.

The quicker you do this -- the quicker you're going to be Free. And if I can say one thing about Bond grrls -- they are free. They live in exotic locations. They are not 'tied down' -- or if they are, it's because they own some fantastic boat, or business, or other thing they are passionate about (and generally help Bond with).