Ready....Fire....Aim!

Yeah, I meant that.

How many of us live our lives like this? I ask you.

You get prepared to do something. Ready.

Then you Fire -- and your shot goes way off target.

And so then you Aim....and get a little closer....and a little closer...

Howcome we work this way, instead of the Ready, Aim, Fire way?

Because getting Ready is action. And Firing is action. And Aiming is -- calm, breathe, think, "internal" action (read: inaction).

But it's such a crucial step.

So when you're looking at your Dreams, get yourself ready....clean out your closets, throw out your old makeup, match up your clothes...get "Ready" for your Inner Bond Grrl. BUT...before you Fire -- before you step on out "TA DA HERE I AM" -- Aim.

Take a look at where you want to be, get a bead on it, think about it, breathe, be calm. You're aiming to be a sniper, knock down that Dream the first time. Not take an unaimed pot-shot at it, which is going to make it jump up and run further away like a little Bunny!

I know -- I know -- I must be pre-coffee because this analogy is working for me and you are probably going -- (love this from ...Harpo's... blog) "doing the Scooby face" -- "Rrrrrrhuh???"

Never mind...

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So what I came here to talk a bit about was in giving someone else advice.

Again, this was brought to my mind by ...Harpo...'s blog. She was talking about when one is called upon to give advice.

Often, your friends look at you, and think of you as a strong mentor, to give them advice.

And we do it -- because we know exactly the right remedy.

You can "fix" it. You are brilliant!

The thing is, that if you give that advice, it gets heard....it doesn't get "embodied." And that person nods their head -- and goes along the path they were on before your brilliant revelation. So how to get around this?

We have all had a teacher that PAINFULLY made us go about finding out the answer ourselves -- right? Where we had to push thru our Duh-ness to come to that flash of insight ourselves?

Well, that's how it's done. Sometimes there isn't time of course -- but as a coach (or a friend), that's the best way to get someone to really "hear" you -- by having "your idea" come out of "their mouth."

Once it comes out of their mouth, they will "own it." It will be "their" idea -- and they will move on it quickly.

It takes some time, finesse, and all that good stuff on YOUR part, but it's well worth it, if you care for that person. I admit to not being so finesse-ful often -- because of the lack of time usually. I just say "Hey, why don't you try this out" and give them the whole picture. But it's just NEVER as successful as if I take the time, and we "walk around" the issue, and the "solution" comes out of their mouths.

OK time for coffee. How I can drag my sorry behind out of bed at 5:30 to go to Pilates is beyond me. My James doesn't even budge. OK sometimes he does when I accidentally kick him when getting out of bed (grin). Then he says "You are SO BRAVE." Yah that's me. :-)