Choose Your Image...Choose Your Name.

We all have names that we were born with. Names that have managed to accumulate a LOT of "baggage" throughout our years. If you wonder what I mean, can't you hear your Mom shouting at you, using your "full name" or maybe your first name AND your middle name? Ohhhh, bad things were comin' down.... :-)

As you become fEmpowered, you are choosing your image -- you are choosing what parts of you you love and want to keep, and what parts you want to fade away. You are going to adopt things that you like from other people, just to "try them on."

One of the best ways to try on that image is to come up with your Bond Grrl name. Now, my Bond Grrl name happens to be Solitaire -- NOT because that's the name of an actual Bond Grrl. (I don't particularly care for the Solitaire character, personally, though it's kinda hard to adopt "Pussy Galore" or "Christmas Jones" (smile).) You want to pick a name that addresses one of your "issues."

How's that?

Well, in my life, I am almost obsessed about doing for others. That's what I think I was put here for -- to help others out. As a corollary to this, I often find that I am looking to other people for approval, instead of looking inside.

This is one of the things that I wanted to change in my Bond Grrl image -- I wanted to be more solid just "unto myself." And so, the name Solitaire -- Solitaire plays the game for her own enjoyment, NOT for (or with) anyone else.

This might not be the best name for you, of course, if you're kinda a loner! You might want a name like Poker (joke! joke! just kidding!).

As an example, one gal in one of the seminars chose the name "Bubbles," because she felt that she was way too serious. (She looked very serious, kind of "broody" -- and when she was called Bubbles it made everyone laugh -- even her. Nice choice.) Another gal, who was very "giggly" and was afraid that would come out if she were to do any sensual dancing for her husband, picked the name "Sultry" -- because if you're sultry, you are NOT giggly.

You get the idea -- pick something that works for how you "want" to be.

And . . . another thing to remember is that it's not all "cast in stone." My first name, in fact, was Sheena -- but that was a little too 'queen of the jungle' for the personality that I was aiming for. My Mom's Bond Grrl name is Nicole -- after Nicole Kidman, who she believes to be the most glamorous, poised woman she has ever seen. (My mom is kinda bouncy and cheerleader-y (think Meg Ryan in her movies like that); she wants her Bond Grrl persona to be more "Nicole-ish." I'm not sure what Dad thinks about this...or if she's willing, after 50 years of marriage, to try it out on him! (smile).)

So, what's your image -- what's your name? Time to think about it ... Vixen? Sultry? Lavender? Honey? Sophia? Let's start drawing her out by...naming her.