What's your excuse?

If you've got one -- stop.

I actually don't care what it is. IAnd say that in the most loving fashion...but I do mean it.

If you have figured out what your Bond Grrl adjectives are -- the ones that, if you are really feeling up and easy, you want to "embody" -- are you putting blocks in your own way?

I saw this episode of Oprah today (did I say I love Oprah?) It was about a new TV show where people are to act as if they only have 72 hours left to live -- then given a certain amount of $ (not a lot of $), and told that they need to do whatever it is that they would be sorry to die having not accomplished. They have to do it all themselves (the show doesn't "set things up for them"). It's so emotional to watch what these folks do -- and what they can accomplish!

You can do it, too.

I think the deal here is that you need to always be moving toward those things that you're passionate about -- and kinda live as if it's your last 72 hours. Because, how do you know that it's not?

I will tell you my firm belief: It's not your job to deal with the "How" of your dreams -- it's just your job to get the passion and emotion behind those dreams, and then to let the Universe do the "How."

I think I mentioned that my friend Susan Bremer, from www.selfappeal.com, and I were recently talking over dinner, and she coined the phrase "Stay In The Now, Get Out Of The 'How.'" What this means is that it's your job to stay "present" (not living in either the past or in the future), and it's the Universe's job to "deliver."

Remember, the subconscious is a "Yes Man" -- what this means is that you want to say things like "Thank you, Universe/God/Christ/Allah/Mary/Yahweh/Source for that new car that is coming to me right now!" ("thanks is the best "energy" that there is!), and you DO NOT WANT TO SAY "...but it's too expensive." That just sends out great, positive energy to the Universe ("Send that car, bay-bee!"), and then negatives it with that negative emotion/energy. And the subconscious (your own little "Source flame" inside) will first say "Yes, a new car!" and then "Yes, it's too expensive!" See what I mean???

I know, I know, this is too "whoo-whoo"/New Age for you, huh? I just have to tell you that, from first-hand experience, this stuff really works. No joke.

Haven't you ever had NO HOPE of something happening, but sent out a huge "prayer to the Universe" (letting go of (a) 'how' it will happen and (b) that it 'won't' happen) -- and somehow, 'a miracle happens'? If this has never happened to you -- you're just not noticing. Or you put it down to "Luck." Give me a break, take some credit in the fact that you "created" that luck! It doesn't have to be something big -- but the second you get your emotion/passion/heart behind what has been called a "Rocket of Desire" by Abraham Hicks ("Ask And It Is Given") -- and then don't remove the energy or second guess it -- you just WILL get that thing.

The point, though, is that often people don't realize that they're asking for something -- and then sending out negative energy that negates whatever it is that they are "praying" for. An example would be praying for a new job or a new relationship -- and then spending time gossiping about how "bad" your current job or relationship is. (Didn't I mention to quit gossiping a while back...?) Not only is gossiping just not a Bond Grrl trait, but also, all that it does is tune you into that negative energy -- and attract it. Stop.

If you are looking for your James, you don't want to concentrate on what you "don't want" -- how many of us do that? You actually want to just concentrate on being TOTALLY joyous in your own life -- and then have all sorts of "daydreams" about wonderful dates with your James. Get all warm and fuzzy about it -- about how you will talk for hours, about his sense of humor, etc. But in the meantime, remember, the deal here is that the more you are doing things you are passionate about -- the happier you are in your life -- the more you will be attracting the same to you. A Bond Grrl has a wonderful, 100% fabulous life -- and then James comes on in. James doesn't "fix" her life (far from it), or "gather her up on his white horse." (I think that the stories we heard or saw as kids did some serious damage to a lot of girls in this area.) Honey, you are ONE HUNDRED PERCENT FABULOUS without ANYONE else -- I don't care who that person is. And without ANY material objects too. You, nekkid, present, perfect. Yes, I do really believe that -- so long as you have that joyous twinkle in your eye -- that's all you need to attract EVERYTHING to your life.

THIS is why you need to de-clutter your life, too -- because anything that is surrounding you should elicit wonderful, joyous, passionate "energy" from you. Does it? If not -- get strong -- and get rid of it.

I have a friend (a closet organizer) who told me about a man who lost his wife way WAY before her time. He couldn't get rid of any of her clothes, etc. What he wound up doing (at her suggestion) was make a scrapbook of bits of her things -- pieces of clothing, stuff she loved -- taking photos, etc. -- and then let my friend take care of the rest. His life had "stalled" and he couldn't move on, with all the reminders around him.

If you're a big "chachki collector," this is going to be painful. Could you: (a) eBay them? (b) take them to a company that eBays them "for you"? (c) take pictures of them, and put them in a scrap book? (d) give them away to friends? (this is one of my biggest ways of 'downsizing out' of stuff that has stale energy for me) (e) give them to a charity that will really use them?

I made the mistake of going once to the Goodwill "sort" because I had given away a briefcase I didn't mean to. Oh. My. Goodness. Stuff was just being pitched -- good clothes being rag-bagged -- etc. If I give stuff to Goodwill now, I just believe it's going to be pitched. So I have found OTHER charities that really DO use the items -- for example, a Hospice that takes books and then sells them or gives them to patients, Cancer Society, Marin Aid to Retarded Citizens, etc. They really DO use the stuff.

Anyway -- we've gotten a little far from the "what's your excuse" thang....but it's all stil the same deal here. If you have an excuse....it's negative energy blocking you from getting the life of your dreams. Knock it off.

Get congruent in your energy -- get PASSIONATE! Watch how your possessions or things around you make you feel...if you're livin' in the past, my sister, you're missing out on the only true reality of life which is NOW.

'Nuff said :-)