Women And Orgasm

Women's capacity for orgasm is awesome.

They can come over and over again, and still be ready for more! This capacity seems almost limitless. They can experience clitoral orgasms, g-spot orgasms, vaginal orgasms, ejaculatory orgasms, blended orgasms, and not only one but multiples of any of these! They've even been blessed with a body part, the clitoris, whose only purpose is sexual pleasure. This may all seem a bit unfair to men who typically reach a precipice, fall over the edge, roll over and go to sleep!

So why is it then that so many women are frustrated rather than satisfied? Why is it that for so many loving couples, the female orgasm remains an elusive dream; one in which she's perhaps become resigned to sex that's pleasurable but not truly satisfying, or even worse, faking it to salvage her partner's ego. If it is really bad, perhaps you are faking orgasms just to get the sexual ordeal over with! While perhaps he sadly wonders: “What's wrong with me?”

The first step on the path to freeing a woman's orgasm is for both men and women to understand that men do not give women orgasms. Women allow themselves to have orgasms. Unless you give yourself up to the pleasures of own body, you won't have orgasms. This realization alone can open the door to women becoming orgasmic. Mind you, an unskilled, selfish, or insensitive male lover can be a real problem for not seeking an orgasm, and at the very least is certainly a dull bore. The biggest barrier to orgasm for women is mental distraction - thoughts that float into her mind, catching her in her head, worrying about how she looks, smells and tastes. Women worry that the cellulite in their upper thighs or that the slight bulge of tummy fat may quiver unattractively. Women worry about being "clean down there." As soon as she starts thinking, she is out of the moment and will lose touch with her senses and her pleasure. All of these thoughts take a woman out of lovemaking. Try to relax your mind and focus on the feeling. When able to relax into the joys of lovemaking and focus on the exquisite sensations, a woman's path to orgasm is much clearer.

Generally women reach orgasm most easily through clitoral stimulation. The clitoris is extremely sensitive to touch of all kinds.The most sensitive part of a woman's vaginal canal is the first inch to two inches. It's here that most of the nerve endings are located, so her partner’s attention should be concentrated there. The elusive “Grafenberg” spot (G-spot) can usually be found in this general area, on the top of the vaginal wall, a couple of inches in. Imagine a glass lying on the floor. If you reach your first two fingers into the glass at the top, i.e., toward the ceiling rather than the bottom towards the floor, you should find it. It is difficult to reach the G-spot through intercourse, so it is found much easier with fingers than with a penis. There are also some interesting dildos and vibrators with just the right shape to reach the G-spot. Moving an index finger or the first two fingers in a "come hither" motion (as if you were asking someone from across the room to come over to where you are) and gently stroking can help find the spot. Sometimes, it feels like a more bumpy or raised area of skin, but not always. The best way to know it’s found is by the reaction!

Stimulation of the G-spot can produce extraordinarily intense orgasms. As a woman is approaching a G-spot orgasm she may feel she has to urinate. This may immediately cause her to tighten up, stop, and pull back from the edge of bliss. If a female can stay relaxed and keep going through that "have-to-pee" sensation, it will pass and move on into deep waves of sexual delight. Women should urinate before intercourse begins, to be more confident that the feeling of having to urinate is a misleading feeling and can be safely ignored.


Happy findings!